How to Be Charming?
October 7, 2019
Charming people often have more opportunities in life—others are drawn to them and treat them more kindly. You might think charm is something you’re born with, but that’s not true: charm can be learned. The book The Power of Charm by Brian Tracy and Ron Arden provides useful insights—here are the most important ones.
How to Charm Everyone
Everyone loves to feel special. To charm someone, make them feel unique. Focus completely on the other person: don’t look at your phone, tie your shoes, look around, or interrupt. Maintain eye contact—it’s essential! Look into their eyes, listen closely, and affirm them with words like “Exactly,” “I understand,” or a nod. Show genuine interest—this gives your counterpart a sense of importance.
Greet the other person with true joy! A warm smile boosts their self-esteem and signals that spending time together will be pleasant. It builds trust.
Value the person and praise their achievements. Everyone loves unexpected compliments. They make others feel appreciated—and happy to spend time with you.
When your conversation partner finishes speaking, wait a few seconds. It shows that you value their words and want to think about them—a sign of respect and genuine interest.
How to Charm a Woman
Women often derive their self-worth from the quality of their relationships. They pay attention to their appearance and how they are treated. Be attentive: open a bottle for her, hold the door, pull out her chair, ask how she’s doing. Women love compliments—not only about appearance but also about character or behavior.
Important!
An actress once said, “I love going to therapy. I can talk about myself for hours—just like a man on a first date.” Exactly! Many men talk only about themselves to impress, but often achieve the opposite. Instead, ask her about her interests, hobbies, favorite colors, or dreams. Listen attentively and show genuine curiosity.
How to charm a man?
Men often define their self-worth through achievements, status, and recognition. The rule is simple: appreciate his accomplishments. Praise his work, his results, his efforts. Ask his advice in areas he knows well—this boosts his confidence and makes him feel valued. Women who encourage men become especially attractive. If you praise what he’s achieved, he’ll strive even more—to impress you further.
This article is based on the book “Be Charming!: How to Win People Over” by Brian Tracy and Ron Arden.
